Loving who?
Tony E Hansen
Reflection on Luke 6: 27-38, Psalm 37, Genesis 45: 3-11,15
Opening prayer
Whenever we interact with people, there is possibility 1) that hopefully goes well and we enjoy every bit of the engagement. Or 2) there is tension, scorn, ridicule or worse. The latter leaves us with bad tastes in our mouthes.
I have read many different authors talking about a need to remove oneself from negative people, especially those who would actively do us harm, those who actively deceive and undermine, or those who only think of themselves - aka, the narcissists.
That last point is valid because one does not need to put up with bad behaviors and negativity, and there is no real reward for putting up with it.
Yet, how does that jive with today’s lesson from Luke?
We continue this week with the sermon on the level place; that is if you are still reading with me past the blessings and woes of last week.
This part of the sermon doesn’t get easier. In fact, I submit to you, it gets even more challenging.
Yet as Jesus says here, “if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.”
Jesus tells us to love those who want to hurt us and who inflict pain upon us.
Great, love your friends but also those who hurt you, call you names, or strike you.
A large part of our society has easily forgotten and ignored these lessons.
It is too tempting and seductive to want retribution for wrongs people have done to us. Instead, Jesus says to “love your enemies.”
I know this as a youth and as someone who identifies was queer, because I do not want to give credence to my enemies anymore than they think they need.
As a youth, I read “offer the other cheek” message but observed (and still do) so many in our society that don’t. This feels like turning ourselves into actual punching bags for bullies and hateful people.
Where is the grace in doing that?
I root for the Daniel LaRusso in Karate Kid to grow a spine and stop taking a lickin’ from the bullies.
Part of the fun of Back to the Future is watching Marty McFly and his dad, George, give it back to those who always picked on, shamed or demeaned their family.
If we announce our position of non-violence and non-retaliation, we know there are people who will actively take advantage of that position.
Many traditions, including Mennonites and Amish, set this as a core belief and were brutally persecuted for this, by who? - by fellow Christians.
The principle of non-retaliation and forgiveness is worthy of our thoughts to consider for it is a core teaching of Jesus; not just some followers but all followers of Jesus.
Why does Jesus says these?
To love your enemies isn’t the romantic type, but something entirely different but necessary. Loving neighbors is good, but loving enemies as people who breathe, goto work, have families and go on living is just as important.
This isn’t meant to be easy, but it is meant to be the Christ way to live.
First, if we go about our lives with violence, hate, anger and revenge on our minds, then it consumes us.
There are things people have done that cause real trauma and that trauma is valid. No one should diminish the reality of that, whether social exclusion, oppression (or slavery), abuse and actual violence and manipulation.
These leave scars not easily visible but certainly felt and perhaps tolerated - when it probably should not have been. (If you are experiencing scars today, there is no need to stay there. Reach out and get away; there are good people willing to help you do that.)
Yet, Jesus calls upon us to not judge but also to forgive.
The church should be a community that learns how to practice forgiveness and non-judgment together.
One that understands the Genesis story of Joseph and his brothers knowing that people do bad things, like horribles the brothers do to Joseph. (I am not sure I could forgive what they did. )
Yet, the story offers an example of what Jesus is telling us about the power of forgiveness and reconciliation to mend relationships, families, and communities. Folks have suffered. There is a real future together.
This isn’t forgiveness just to say the words, but to find that future. And like Joseph does - an inventory. In moments when we are upset, we could look at the blessings we have. There, we realize God does things for us - making the possible in our lives. There is real hope.
Part of this is to understand that we, who feel ostracized or hurt by others, that those others, too, have felt these at points in their lives.
That isn’t to justify what happened between people, but it is to recognize that we don’t own drama, pain or “unfortunate" alone.
Unfortunate happens to all of us. How did I get here, and what did I do that I should have done instead? Do you ask, “Why did I let them do that to me?” Perhaps, How does it stop?
In that moment, in those questions, you learn, you find growth, and when you look close, you find God. Ask God those questions; answers are nearer than you think.
Our lesson is not to let that unfortunate become us but to realize that God is with us. Instead of finding blame, we might look to forgive ourselves first and then that forgiveness in our hearts can start to mend the pains as needed. Find God helping you learn to love YOU and the people around you - all of them.
Yes unfortunate happens. We learn to learn to live with it, we learn to live in community, and we learn to lean into our faith - that God is there for us.
Thanks be to God