Wisdom in Dark Days
Tony E Hansen
Reflection based upon Deuteronomy 30: 15-20, Matthew 5:21-37, Psalm 119
Opening Prayer
This week we could be walking through the mountains in Transfiguration Sunday, but I saw these texts for Epiphany and think this is a great time to walk through this wisdom in dark days.
There is much discussion here about the law and following the laws - Doing the right things and how one might reconcile when we do wrong.
For my own, you might think I am a walking paradox. It is probably because I am a Gemini and constantly having arguments with myself. Also, I am a broken person. I know that and I don’t ignore that.
Yet to be a paradox is to do and to be contradictory .
I do believe in God and I do my best to follow the precepts of love for all people. (Some days and some people are little more challenging than others.) I believe we ought to follow the commandments that have been laid out for us to love God and to love our neighbors and to follow the human laws that are just and fair.
I also think we ought to protest and argue laws that are unjust or worse. We ought to protest cruelty and unjust punishments handed out, especially murders. We ought to feed the homeless, to be welcoming, to take care of the our planet and to take care of the sick. We ought to do that not just because it is the correct thing but more importantly because God tells us so.
I think we spend inordinate amounts of time casting judgment upon sexuality and sexual diversity. Lots of judgment for the wrong reasons. It is a distraction from real threats. There are plenty of vicious crimes but being human having sexuality should not be one of them. That is the way God made us and God is good - as we say!
For this much, many might call my view to be heretical for not following the teachings of the church, but I am not bound to doctrines. I am bound to the truth that God gives us in plain sight.
I have explored non-traditional ways of sexuality while I mostly met respect and shared the same. I do not identify as straight.
We know that porn abuses people, and at the same time, it is an outlet for questions. Porn reduces people to distorted expectations, meat markets or worse. We also know that people go there despite centuries of censorship and condemnation. Why do people go there ? There is a cost regardless if we think otherwise.
I remember the movie, Independence Day, and the woman who rescues the First Lady is a stripper. First Lady’s reaction to learning this, I am sorry. Why do we give these people unfair treatment? If someone is a sex worker, I have questions for them. Jesus did. Despite an avalanche of criticism, I don’t think there is automatically something wrong with their work. Yet there are questions.
Even so…
Traditional ideas have made an unnecessary pariah about sex, human attraction and procreation standards. In the name of purity, it is taboo and unclean to even discuss. How repressive. Repression has way of perpetuating the problems it seeks to remove. Sexuality, however is a natural part of who we are, and Our Creator made us with diversity - Even too - people with sexuality. What couples want to do is between them and we need not scream hysterics .
That isn’t to say all is ok. Pedophilia, trafficking, rape and assault are wrong, destructive and punishable. Breaking fidelity promises of marriage is wrong and destructive. Consent is not possible nor implied. Those are hurting someone as well as betraying and deceiving. I personally know the costs.
I may be single but I will always respect the marriage covenant. I will respect mutual boundaries. That is basic decency.
People have the right to be attractive, to be attracted to other people, to find other people interesting and to not have sinister judgements cast upon them. We don’t have the right to hurt others. Nor do we have to wear the correct clothes or work out everyday. (although, I could lose a few pounds).
That is contrast to more “traditional“ ideas of righteousness and ministry.
This isn’t just for physical but mental, emotional and spiritual as well. When I treat you with fairness, dignity, respect, love and grace, there is no blame and there is no sin. That is also no matter where you are in life’s journey.
The moment I exceed that or lose sight of this basic principle, blame is surely to follow. That is when I need to reconcile and not seek fault in others.
Good people around us help us think and help us be better individuals in this world. Good people help us be better neighbors and help us see other people as people rather than objects or worse. Good people are examples of Christ in this world, although we are ourselves are flawed. Are you a good person?
That is the core of love, the core of God. To love God and love our neighbors - finding time to be with our neighbors, our family, whether we agree or not.
That is choosing life and choosing love. That is allowing God to reveal to us. That is keeping God’s decrees and seeking them with whole heart.
When you open your heart to God and leave judgment to God alone, you will find no shame and not have to worry about whether you follow the statutes or whether your right eye causes you to sin.
If you are looking at people and the world with God’s love in your heart, there is no blame and no cause to be judged.
So what is holding you back from that love and letting God truly fill you?
When we screw up (and we will), we don’t try to pass it off, lie about it or ignore it. Own your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. Come to terms with justice and peace. Come to terms with your Creator.
When you are offering gifts, your expectation should not be a transactional reward. Also, if you have done something wrong, be reminded to reconcile with those you have wronged where possible.
When I walk around and talk about Jesus and following Jesus but do not embody that love and those lessons from Christ, then I am walking deception. If I say that I love Jesus and I love my neighbors but don’t offer to help them or only offer to help when they help me, then that is not Christ’s love. That is transaction.
We are to love not as a transaction or expectation for rewards. We are to embody the welcoming, the forgiveness and the love that is God. When we do that, there is no blame, there is no deception, there is no question or need to reconcile.
God has set before us “life and death, blessings and curses”. We have been given a choice and the choice is clear.
You have life and you have blessings. Let that be in your hearts. Let that calm you and nurture you.
Death and curses are around us, but fear not!
With God’s love in our hearts, there is so much possible. There is nothing for us to worry because our actions, our thoughts, and our beliefs will reflect that love that has been bestowed upon us and for us.
That Beloved is
Thanks Be to God.
Amen
Part 2 ish : Addendum on Epiphany 6A